Weight gain and relationship problems are almost always inextricably linked. When it comes to your physical health, the way you interact with those around you has a huge impact.
A significant portion of my weight loss clients have some degree of emotional eating going on. Emotional eating can be described as turning to high-fat, high-calorie foods in direct response to the experience of unpleasant emotions. You are literally ‘stuffing down’ your emotions by using food, which acts as a repression mechanism.
This approach never works because eventually the emotions will come back to haunt you again and again, until you learn to deal with them. So if you don’t address the cause of the emotional eating, the weight problem will never go away.
One of the catalysts of emotional eating is trauma in relationships. Sometimes people are experiencing so many dramas in their home life that they can’t find the resources to do what they know they must do in order to lose weight.
Your Significant Relationship Affects Your Weight
When your relationship with your spouse, lover or partner is working, this creates a sense of wellbeing and contentment, which increases your chances of losing weight and keeping it off.
On the other hand if you are constantly fighting with your partner or engaging in subtle power battles, this takes up a huge amount of your energy and literally weighs you down so that you can’t focus on anything else, including your health.
Unhappy relationships create stress, which increases cortisol. Cortisol causes you to hold onto excess weight and misery loves the couch and a bag of potato chips.
Lisa Was ‘Emotionally Squashed’
Her words, not mine. I remember the day she signed up for my weight management program with high hopes of conquering her long-standing yo-yo dieting behaviour once and for all.
Lisa had the best intentions. When we set goals for eating and exercise, she nodded her head enthusiastically, assuring me that she was ‘ready’ to do this.
As the weeks passed Lisa attended her sessions only to confess she had not changed her eating habits at all, nor had she made any effort to exercise. She kept saying ‘I’m just too tired No matter how much I want to I just can’t find the energy to do anything about it’. The writing was on the wall; Lisa wasn’t ready to do this.
It came as no surprise to me that she was in a toxic relationship and was only staying with her partner because of the kids. ‘In 5 years time when the youngest is out of school, then I’ll leave him. I just can’t put them through this right now.’
Unfortunately, the hypnotherapy had no effect of Lisa, and we parted ways. I told her that when she was ready, all the work we had done in our sessions would kick in and not only would she lose weight, she would keep it off.
Lisa Got Rid Of The Problem
Two years later Lisa rang me to tell me she had left her husband, met a new man and shed a whopping 30 kilos! She thanked me profusely and ordered several of my hypnosis recordings. She has remarried and is the happiest I have ever seen her.
Sadly, many people would rather stay in a toxic relationship than face the unknown; they just can’t see a way out. Others find it so unbearable that they have no choice other than to leave. Children and finances often make the situation even more complicated.
If you want to lose weight but you are in a relationship that isn’t working for you, ask yourself: ‘what is it going to cost me to stay in this relationship?’ Likely it will cost you your health; but only you can decide whether staying in the relationship is right for you. Contact me today if you would like some help with your weight problem.